An exerpt from my sister’s LJ blog and my responce:
Ada:
Someone, somewhere, probably during the dark agaes when the average lifespan was 25, decided that we should know what we want to do for the rest of our lives at an early age.
That same person probably started the viscious rumor that when we are adults we are supposed to know what we are doing and have it all together. We get this idea when we are children, when our parents still know thing about everything. Then we grow up thinking that when we grow up, we too will know everything about everything, have it all together, and be able to leap tall buildings in a single bound!…Then we grow up, don’t know what we want to do tomorrow (much less the rest of our lives), that we have very llittle together, and that it takes at least two bounds to get over the tall buildings.
I don’t know a single friend that has everything all together. You may have a great career and be a great parent, but the house is a wreck, or you are terrible at relationships, or can’t decide on a career, but have a great education and everyone THINKS you have it all together.
No one has it figued out and no one has it all together. Even if we don’t advertise it, it makes me feel better that I am not the only person that may wake up and wonder, be confused, do or say the wrong thing, or just simply have no clue. Even if we hide it well, no one has it all togther all the time.
I repeat that to myself when I look at my closet that is out of control, can’t find the other shoe, call a friend to give me reasons not to call him, or when tripping over something in front of a gorgeous man.
If it’s not true, just let me live in ignorant bliss….
Me:
um well, maybe, just maybe God knew what he was doing when he made us like this. I dunno, just seems like things would be pretty booring if while living, we didnt change and grow. i mean, how can stagnation be perfect? and if you had all together, what kind of goal could you work for? Seems to me, it has an awful lot to do with which side of the fence the grass you’re looking at is on. Me? I have 3 careers, (not all at once, but i tried that and it didnt work out too well…), My house looks like someone picked it up and shook it, I have my days and nights mixed up( its 2 am and i’m wide awake) and i would love to get thru a day without totally ruining something. BUT things are about as together as i want them. Who else can go puddle jumping (yes i did…splash!!!) at midnight? 😉